This video is about my web page and a lot about change it self. Watch live video from Ripple Affect on Justin.tv
29 July 2011
27 July 2011
Justin.tv
I have been playing around with www.justin.tv as a place I can do Video Blogs and Live streaming. I have one video up there now and had fun doing it. But I have found that the lighting is bad :-(
http://www.justin.tv/rippleaffect
18 July 2011
Welfare Mentality: Jumping off the Rodent Wheel
When looking for how people get welfare mentality we need to look at several theories of social learning and development of schemas. Within social learning there is a concept of "scaffolding" and "modelling". I will first explain these concepts. Scaffolding is the concept that the teacher is keeping their teaching slightly higher that the student. The term scaffolding comes from the building trade, where the scaffolding is always slightly higher than the building the builders are building. Just like this the teacher always tries to educate at a slightly higher ability of the student. Modelling is what kids do when watching their parents, friends, and what ever multimedia they use. So in essence kids copy behaviour to learn what "appropriate" behaviour is within the social network of the family. So you can see that these terms are not really difficult to understand, though these ideas are not really thought about unless you have been told about them. Now I need to add in to this the mind trap, aka schema. This is when we have one script of behaviour through life and when we want or need to change our behaviour or way of thinking, it is incredibly difficult to do without help or training. Because how can a person change when you do not know what to change into, which is like the mouse running on the wheel and told to jump off the wheel, and the poor mouse has never jumped off the wheel before. Likewise if a person has not been taught to get of a treadmill at speed, and accident is bound to occur, thus trepidation keeps them on the treadmill. So being stuck in the welfare trap I feel is not a matter of skills, knowledge, or abilities that one has, but an attitude that a person has developed of inherited. An attitude of poverty is developed when being bourn into poverty or if someone has been in poverty or some time. Not too many people have learnt to budget or keep a running account of the home. But people do keep all the bills in mind and in sight and try to pay them first and save every where they can. The attitude shift here is also in gratification delay, so one does not go out and spend all the pay in one day on what you want. This is why the bills like the electricity, rent, phone, and food gets priority and then think about buying things for yourself. Also an attitude shift takes place from that of self-reliance versus relying on others for survival. There is a theory that those that received pocket money from their parents in childhood are being taught to be reliant on others for their survival thus taught to have a welfare mentality (http://wealthisgood.blogspot.com/2011/05/allowances-create-welfare-mentality.html). Though it may also be that when people experience receiving welfare from an organisation break the self-pride and become accustom to receiving help thus view it as a source of income not welfare. It is also seen that pocket money and welfare does not teaches people the value of work and the association of the value of money. It is through work and the remuneration for the work that we comprehend that money is a token for work done, and that what we are trading is not money but work done in the form of tokens being money. It is a funny thing that a lecturer of mine at UNI stated that to traverse the red tape to receive welfare takes a lot of knowledge in what entitlements are available, skill in filling in forms, passions in dealing with government workers, and work to fulfil requirements. Though there are some that see that having a job is not advantageous to their life style. Being on welfare means that travel concessions are given, medication and doctor appointments are highly subsidised, rent and electricity is reduced, free counselling, and lots of free time to live. When a person works all this is lost. So in a summery from my view, a welfare mentality is an attitude of what you are willing to settle for in your life and how you wish to live it which represents the amount of welfare one receives. Granted this view excludes people with mental health reasons of being on welfare. In Exile from our self: Where am I?
Do you say to your self statements like: 
All these statements take the concentration form the self and transfer it to an external source. It is likewise saying that there is no control within the self to modify, control, or shift one's emotionality. If a person treats another with anger or contempt, that person is then blamed for treating the other like that, the other person takes the emotional concentration from the self and places control in the other. But the initial question should be, what did I do to get that behaviour in the first place? But the question I am interested in is how did we get this way in the first place? We are taught to see our self separate from others, from nature, and from a higher power. We are in essence in self exile from the unity of everything that is not of the core self individual. From reading and listening to the works of Joseph Campbell, all the myths are trying to teach us the unity of everything and that the power is within the self to work in unity with everything. Thus the self is the source of everything and everything is part of the self. The hero in a myth transcends the concerns' of the self, to become a person that controls the world around them-selves by controlling the self. The hero brings out the best in others by demonstrating the best within them self. This happens through the understanding of transcending the concepts that have no language that can describe the state of being. The hero is not in exile from the self, where we are taught in the Western and Middle Eastern world that we are in exile from the self. This is why God is separate from the self, and Nature is separate from the self. I have talked to clients that blame others for the wows in their life, and seek happiness in being is the company with others. In talking to them, and explaining to them that the source of there woes and happiness is sort for within the self, is an alien concept. Some do not understand, others understand intellectually but do not live it, and the very few that do succeed know it and do it. This last group that know and do it are in the TAO of Power. The group that know it intellectually are interesting, their cup is full but they do not drink from the cup. The intellectual can talk the talk, but they still seek controlled to through force and thus the force bounces back and creates fear within them, manifesting as anger. Thus still the source of woe still emanates externally. When it is discovered that the self is in control of its emotional state then the awakening comes, that changing emotional state becomes a choice, and can be directed appropriately. In this state of awareness, the view will come that there is no such thing a bad emotion or good emotion, there is just emotion that can be directed. Thus anger is a very helpful emotion when directed and use properly. Anger helps a person act when there is a breach of ethical behaviour in others and motivates a person to create social change, like there is now with the slow erosion of our civil liberties by the governments that we vote in and lie to us. Likewise sadness is our connection with empathy to others and with the situation that we are currently in, and motivates us to form stronger bonds with significant others. The lack of understanding of our emotions and lack of ability to control our emotions is being in exile from our selves. While being in exile from the self severs the connection to understand other people's emotions and motivations, thus being in exile from society and being truly an individual, ignoring the needs of others. Likewise being in exile from one's self, divorces us, and forces us to be in exile from the land around us. This is how we are out of accord with nature, and acting without emotion towards nature, thus we take what we want without care of the future of the land it-self. This then gives our society a lack of understanding of the connection of the self to everything around up. We view those with power to destroy, and power over others as people to emulate and glorify. This is why there is a vacuum in society glorifying wisdom and connectedness, instead we glorify everything you see on the TV News each night. To give an example, people are willing to lie, cheat, and do harm to others just for fame, so the perpetrator can get on TV and receive attention.
- When I get that new car I will be happy.
- All I need is that right relationship, then I will be happy.
- Once I have my debts payed off I will be happy.
- That person makes me angry.
- I would die without him or her.
- He or She completes me.
- You are the reason I am in this situation.
All these statements take the concentration form the self and transfer it to an external source. It is likewise saying that there is no control within the self to modify, control, or shift one's emotionality. If a person treats another with anger or contempt, that person is then blamed for treating the other like that, the other person takes the emotional concentration from the self and places control in the other. But the initial question should be, what did I do to get that behaviour in the first place? But the question I am interested in is how did we get this way in the first place? We are taught to see our self separate from others, from nature, and from a higher power. We are in essence in self exile from the unity of everything that is not of the core self individual. From reading and listening to the works of Joseph Campbell, all the myths are trying to teach us the unity of everything and that the power is within the self to work in unity with everything. Thus the self is the source of everything and everything is part of the self. The hero in a myth transcends the concerns' of the self, to become a person that controls the world around them-selves by controlling the self. The hero brings out the best in others by demonstrating the best within them self. This happens through the understanding of transcending the concepts that have no language that can describe the state of being. The hero is not in exile from the self, where we are taught in the Western and Middle Eastern world that we are in exile from the self. This is why God is separate from the self, and Nature is separate from the self. I have talked to clients that blame others for the wows in their life, and seek happiness in being is the company with others. In talking to them, and explaining to them that the source of there woes and happiness is sort for within the self, is an alien concept. Some do not understand, others understand intellectually but do not live it, and the very few that do succeed know it and do it. This last group that know and do it are in the TAO of Power. The group that know it intellectually are interesting, their cup is full but they do not drink from the cup. The intellectual can talk the talk, but they still seek controlled to through force and thus the force bounces back and creates fear within them, manifesting as anger. Thus still the source of woe still emanates externally. When it is discovered that the self is in control of its emotional state then the awakening comes, that changing emotional state becomes a choice, and can be directed appropriately. In this state of awareness, the view will come that there is no such thing a bad emotion or good emotion, there is just emotion that can be directed. Thus anger is a very helpful emotion when directed and use properly. Anger helps a person act when there is a breach of ethical behaviour in others and motivates a person to create social change, like there is now with the slow erosion of our civil liberties by the governments that we vote in and lie to us. Likewise sadness is our connection with empathy to others and with the situation that we are currently in, and motivates us to form stronger bonds with significant others. The lack of understanding of our emotions and lack of ability to control our emotions is being in exile from our selves. While being in exile from the self severs the connection to understand other people's emotions and motivations, thus being in exile from society and being truly an individual, ignoring the needs of others. Likewise being in exile from one's self, divorces us, and forces us to be in exile from the land around us. This is how we are out of accord with nature, and acting without emotion towards nature, thus we take what we want without care of the future of the land it-self. This then gives our society a lack of understanding of the connection of the self to everything around up. We view those with power to destroy, and power over others as people to emulate and glorify. This is why there is a vacuum in society glorifying wisdom and connectedness, instead we glorify everything you see on the TV News each night. To give an example, people are willing to lie, cheat, and do harm to others just for fame, so the perpetrator can get on TV and receive attention. 14 July 2011
Love Languages
Here is something that I have talked about on past postings :-) This web page outlines some ways to show love :-) 75 Ways to Show Love in Relationships
05 July 2011
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