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A Date of confusion, No time for consistency

As a therapist I encounter people that use anger and temper tantrums as a form of getting what they want. This all comes down to inconsistent parenting, giving children mixed messages. All too often we ignore good behaviour and reward bad behaviour with attention. Attention is sort by the children even if when it means that it is a form of punishment. The child is after attention and attention is what they get when the parent is chastising the child. Thus when the parent is busy and the child is helping with the shopping or what ever, the parent often does not give the child the positive attention that encourages good behaviour.   When ever you talk to a child psychologist you will hear them talk about consistency is they type of attention you give a child and when. It is more about how the parent interacts with a child than the child's behaviour. It is when these children grow up they get diagnosed with personality disorders, adjustment disorders, and anxiety disorder. Then I deal with a lot of them with Drug or Alcohol issues, along with the training they got with inconsistent parenting.   To really understand what I am talking about, you go on a date and everything is going top guns, but suddenly you are told that you are not wanted. Furthermore, your boss persistently calls you into the office to chastise you about any or all minor thing, then when you whish to quit because of the minor issues, the boss tells you, that you are the best work that the organisation has. How would that make you feel? Now imagine what the child is feeling when the same mixed messages are given out by the parents. One day the parent plays ball in the house with the child and the next day the child gets chastised for doing the same thing.

Rear shed/workshop section of 139 Peisley St $350/week o.n.o.

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Date Listed:	25/07/2012
Last Edited:	25/07/2012
Price:	$350.00 Negotiable
Address:	139 Peisley St, Orange NSW 2800
For Rent By:	Owner
Available:	25/07/2012
Parking:	Street
Size (sqm):	350

Prime location in Orange opposed the railway station, with 3 off street car parking spaces. This shed is Ideal for a work Shop or Shop. Approx 150 square meters floor space with an office and amenities. Will negotiate on any aspect of the lease. Last used as an Auction room adjunct to 137 Peisley Street. Supper Cheap rent for this location. You may place your signage on the front of the 139 Peisley st Building advertising your business. Call Owner if you have any enquirie or leave a message and I will ring you back ASAP. Also you may email me.

TV Violence :- Mean World Syndrome

Do not watch this Video if you are turned off from violence. This Video shows Media Violence to illustrate what TV Violence is doing to us as Individuals and as a community.   httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEIexqD4ljY&feature=related  

Small steps

All too often I listen to people talk about the unity of all things and the fundamental inter-connectedness  of all things, and yet act in a way that is totally ego concentric. Some people know this intellectually but do not live it. So how do we live it? how do we act in a way that enhances the connection with others and other things around us.? This can be easily explained but hard to live at first. Like all habits, they are hard to break, and all to easy we slip back into old behaviour patterns that we have practiced for years, and learnt from others through out our lives.   To understanding the initial concept. Firstly by seeing the Divine in every one and everything.  Thus we apply them:   The Divine: Look around your self. See the items on your desk. Next understand that those items are not yours till the end of time, these items are distend to be destroyed, break, and change form. You only have a life time lease of these items if you are lucky, or till you have the desire to move the item on to its next destination. The next destination for the items may be to a friend, the bin, or to a second hand shop, or perhaps be stolen at worst. Although this is true for those with a spiritual bent and those with out the next step is more profound. All matter, the items on your desk are made of the divine energy that has been fashioned for our use. By recognizing the divine energy that is inherit in the items you must respect the energy thus also the items. By disrespecting the item you are disrespecting the energy and the divine that makes up that energy. Think about all the small parts (atoms) that make the entire item. Can you respect the items that sit around you? respect the atoms that make up the items? now that this is understood, look at you hand or some part of your body. Can you comprehend that you are made of the same divine energy. Well done... So in my generalization of people, because we are all guilty of it at least once in our life. think of the internal dialog that we have had with our self, the self talk. Have you called your self an idiot? have you put your self down? Called your self names that are demeaning? Now the hard question, why is it that you can respect the items around you but you cannot respect yourself?   I work in the Drug and alcohol recovery industry and I come across many people that think very little of them selves,. They put them selves down at every opportunity, and have disrespected them selves in every way possible. Within these extrems I see what negative self talk does to a person, we are our own worst enemy and harshest judge when we are confronted with our own self talk over generalizing every proclamation we have about our selves. If you cannot disrespect the divine you should now find it hard to disrespect your self for you are part of the divine, made up of the same energy. Thus you need to start useing posetive affermations to discribe your self and do not generalise your harsh self comments. Love your self as you are divine energy capable of self directing your thoughts, words and actions.   As we are all sprung from the same stock, Partakers in the same nature, and share the same hope, Respect others as you respect your self. Love others as you love your self. Love the Divine with all your heart, with all your sole. Now you can connect with everything around you with the loving respect that every item, every person and your self with the loving respect that the divine is due. Thus do unto others as you would have them do unto you, for those among us that are treated with the least respect we treat the divine with the least respect.

Assumptions

Assumptions are dangers things. Our judgment calls that are not fully informed are based on assumptions about the information we do have. It is the information that we do have that may have been biased by the people that gave us that information.   Having tainted information from some one that also does not have the hole story or has a hidden agenda will strive to make you passionate about an issue that has no real bases in your own though. you are being blindingly led to support something that with more information you may not support at all.   This is the bases of having a good education, by having not the knowledge of stuff, but having the know how to get all the information you need to make a good judgment call.

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