The Decisions we make: The Ripple Affect that you make.

We live in the illusion that we own the things we have. The house you own, the TV that you are watching, the computer that you are using, and the cloths that you are wearing, you may think are yours, but this too is an illusion. The only things that you can call yours are the decisions you make, and the consequences that you live with. In times of trouble and in times of peace you own the decisions that you make, even when you are costing through life or traversing disastrous events, these too are yours. The events that you encounter within your life and the information you receive may happen by chance or are out of your control, but what you do with the information and in the event these decisions are yours. I have heard a quote that "the decisions we make dictate the lives we live". When I have been in counselling with people, a pattern soon appears in the way people have responded to events and what they did with information. I too have been tested many times with my responses to events and information I have. It is when one responds to an event without thought of others, only thinking about one's own self, the consequences' can be harmful to your self in the relationship with the ones around you. The same goes with the information you have, if you decide to use this information with out thought of how it affects others, in the long run it will affect you. Just as I have heard a Taoist tell me "any decision is like throwing a ball that is connected by a string to a horizontal bar above your head, the harder you throw the ball the harder it will hit you on the back, and you will not know that you are the one that threw the same ball". Lest that something that you could see in a movie plot as an example. Letts take a Man working in a high end office, making thousands of dollars a week, he is married with 2 lovely kids. Well one day he comes across a woman that takes interest in him. The successful man decides to have a date with the woman and then the inevitable happens and they sleep together. Eventually the wife finds out, he decides to go out and drink to overcome the self-pity and self-doughty that he has. He hops into his car and drunk and gets pulled over by the cops, he looses his licence. This decision of driving drunk, results in him loosing his licence, thus he looses his job and all the money he makes, because he needs a drivers licence in his job. Now that he chose to betray his wife and drive under the influence, his wife decides to leave him and take the kids. So then the man gets drunk again and then takes his car out for a spin, those two decisions puts him in the position of being caught by the cops again. He now is charged with driving under the influence, and driving unlicensed, he is then called to appear at court. The Judge orders the man to attend counselling, and in the counselling session he talks about the events of the past and only after a few sessions he sees the pattern, but still finds it hard to own the responsibility for those decisions'. This is just a hypothetical story, but many part of this story can be seen in different books and movies. One that comes to mind is the original Wall Street. The decisions we make have their ripple affect that surrounds us in space, and follows us through time. The affects of the decisions can take years to come back to haunt us and many times we don't even know that we caused the end result years ago. Like wise some ripples keep going for generations. This is for all decisions we make the good and the bad. I know in my life that there are some principals that I live by, that come from several generations back, passed on intra-generationally, that is from one generation to the next. Likewise, we are all taught our passions and prejudices', and we are also able is to keep them within due bounds so they do not get the better of us.