The Hand the rocks the Cradle Rules the World

The Hand the rocks the Cradle Rules the World   This is a common saying that I think everyone knows but really do not know the full import of the saying.   Children enter the world with complete ignorance of the social complexities of world the parents live in. The child is an alien to the world we live in, and need to know the pitfalls before they fall into them. as the child grows the learning becomes challenging for the parents, as the parenting style will govern the socialization and moral code the child will live with. The child will not know what is maladaptive (bad) for them and what is beneficial (good) for them, all this is taught by the parents.   The Hand the rocks the Cradle controles:

• The types of shows they watch on TV
• The quality of friends the child has
• The values that the child has
• The principals that the child will take to the grave with them
• The morals that they act by
• The ethics that they base their decisions on
• The child will distinguish as Normal behaviour
• The type of education that the child gets
• The habits of the child

I was horrified when I saw a posting on another web page for parents, which stated:-

To those it may warrant to think its there concern or business..... The choices my children choose to make are totally their decisions. And as for MYSELF, their DAD & their STEP-MUM we strongly support their decision to be their own individuals & learn from their own knocks & falls.... WE ARE THEIR PARENTS AND DON'T GIVE A DAMN WHAT OPINION OTHERS MAY CHOOSE TOO HAVE .... TAKE YOUR OPINIONS AND PUT THEM TOO USE IN YOUR OWN AFFAIRS NOT OURS !!!!!!!

Granted this is not an original concept by those that may have misinterpreted Benjamin Spock's method of parenting. Children need to guided, not let loos on the world without gudence.   Thus everything you do as a parent will be reflected in the child. for you are the bench mark that the child judges the world around them.