Self Fulfilling Prophecy: Make your own Prophecy for the future.

Some years ago I saw a documentary about a violin school, and in this documentary the teacher got all the new students to write a 5000 word essay about what they would like to see in them self at the end of their studies. The teacher then stated that every student became what they wrote in their essay. I did the same many many years ago in a journal that I kept, at one stage I wrote that I wanted to become a paranormal psychologist. Funny enough I never thought about going to University till 2001, so now I am almost a full psychologist and am studying theology, I have also studied with a TAO master. I had forgotten all about this till one day I found that entry in my journal when I was flicking through it. Thus I have told others to imagine and write down what they see of them self in 2 or 5 years in detail.   In psychology a self fulfilling prophecy was discovered in schools and with rats. Firstly in schools when a teacher believes that a student is incapable of being taught the belief of the teacher comes true, even when the belief is manufactured. Likewise with rat studies, there was a maze study with rats that students had to do for their course. A family of brother and sister rats were split up between two teams of students. The first team (team 1) was told that their rats came from a long genetic line of great maze running rats, while the second team (team 2) were told that their rats are stupid rats. Team 1 treated their rats with more kindness and spent more time with them in the maze. Their rats learnt the maze in fewer days, while team 2 treated their rats unkindly and did not spend much time with them. So you can now guess that the team 2 rats took longer to learn the maze. Both of these studies, the teacher study and the rat study was designed by psychologists to study self fulfilling prophecies.   There is so much more I can type about this subject, but here thus far I have talked about a self fulfilling prophecy that is driven from within and another that is driven externally. Self fulfilling prophecy when driven from externally become part of your schema (script of behaviour) and can be hard to fight, but any taught behaviour can be un-learned. So when we talk to people you need to come from a place of love, because any words of judgment will be taken in by the listener and change the listener. That is why it is harmful to anyone to throw out global attacks on other people. Harmful attacks are statements that are not specific. For example "you are hopeless", "you make me sick", "go get a life", "your fat", and many more. These are attacks that the receiver can do nothing about but to choose to believe them, and live them. Where as specific attacks can be either constructive criticism or harmful attacks. So a constructive criticism is something like "you are bad at doing that, you need to practice", but a specific harmful attack is a comment such as, "you suck at that". When you receive an attack like this, you have a choice to say in your mind "No I am not" or "yes I agree with you", to internalise the comment.   To create your own self fulfilling prophecy, statements of affirmation is a great start and a staple in the diet of self belief. In prison, the inmates are told to stand in front of the mirror first thing in the morning and tell them-self "I am going to have a great day" and it happens. I know that one bad thing told to you from a loved one means more that 1000 good things told to you from friends or strangers, and what you tell your self means nothing. This is so wrong, for you to get your life on the direction that you want. You should believe that what you tell your self means everything 1000 times more that any negative word told to you by anyone.   Spiritual teachers may call this "the law of attraction", but it is really all the same. If you have been given a negative self fulfilling prophecy that you are living out and what to change, you need to change your thoughts, words, and actions. If you wish to create your own self fulfilling prophecy to create a life you want you need to do the same thing, live through your thoughts, words, and actions.   In saying this, if you have your thoughts, and words full of fear, those fears will come true because the self fulfilling prophecy is that you wish to live in fear. Like wise if your thoughts are full of want, your self fulfilling prophecy is that you wish to live in a state of want. All your actions will emanate those feelings. Thus if you are a person that really fears job lose or losing your partner, your actions will reflect those fears, changing your behaviours to jealousy, worry, and anger. You will question every word that is stated and every action that is taken by your boss, co-workers, or partner.   I may have said in a previous blog posting, that David Attemborough started that what ever you look for in the behaviour of animals that is what you will find in your observations. You will find the same type of statement in the movie "what the bleep do we know" in the context of quantum physics, if a person wants to see light as a particle that is what they will observe, and if a person wants to see light as a wave, this too shall be observed based on the types of experiments performed.   To examine your own fears or what ever you are consumed with that may be a negative self fulfilling prophecy, get a note pad and start asking your self questions about what has been on your mind for the last few days. If you see a pattern of wingding, complaining, questioning others, etc. you will see that these are all from the external world which are not productive for yourself. It is then time to start asking questions about how you can advance your self. Your questions should start to become that of discovery, learning, and self development, or as Neale Walsh states it, as remembering you god nature within, because if you are not within you are without.