A Date of confusion, No time for consistency

As a therapist I encounter people that use anger and temper tantrums as a form of getting what they want. This all comes down to inconsistent parenting, giving children mixed messages. All too often we ignore good behaviour and reward bad behaviour with attention. Attention is sort by the children even if when it means that it is a form of punishment. The child is after attention and attention is what they get when the parent is chastising the child. Thus when the parent is busy and the child is helping with the shopping or what ever, the parent often does not give the child the positive attention that encourages good behaviour.   When ever you talk to a child psychologist you will hear them talk about consistency is they type of attention you give a child and when. It is more about how the parent interacts with a child than the child's behaviour. It is when these children grow up they get diagnosed with personality disorders, adjustment disorders, and anxiety disorder. Then I deal with a lot of them with Drug or Alcohol issues, along with the training they got with inconsistent parenting.   To really understand what I am talking about, you go on a date and everything is going top guns, but suddenly you are told that you are not wanted. Furthermore, your boss persistently calls you into the office to chastise you about any or all minor thing, then when you whish to quit because of the minor issues, the boss tells you, that you are the best work that the organisation has. How would that make you feel? Now imagine what the child is feeling when the same mixed messages are given out by the parents. One day the parent plays ball in the house with the child and the next day the child gets chastised for doing the same thing.

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TV Violence :- Mean World Syndrome

Do not watch this Video if you are turned off from violence. This Video shows Media Violence to illustrate what TV Violence is doing to us as Individuals and as a community.   httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEIexqD4ljY&feature=related  

Small steps

All too often I listen to people talk about the unity of all things and the fundamental inter-connectedness  of all things, and yet act in a way that is totally ego concentric. Some people know this intellectually but do not live it. So how do we live it? how do we act in a way that enhances the connection with others and other things around us.? This can be easily explained but hard to live at first. Like all habits, they are hard to break, and all to easy we slip back into old behaviour patterns that we have practiced for years, and learnt from others through out our lives.   To understanding the initial concept. Firstly by seeing the Divine in every one and everything.  Thus we apply them:   The Divine: Look around your self. See the items on your desk. Next understand that those items are not yours till the end of time, these items are distend to be destroyed, break, and change form. You only have a life time lease of these items if you are lucky, or till you have the desire to move the item on to its next destination. The next destination for the items may be to a friend, the bin, or to a second hand shop, or perhaps be stolen at worst. Although this is true for those with a spiritual bent and those with out the next step is more profound. All matter, the items on your desk are made of the divine energy that has been fashioned for our use. By recognizing the divine energy that is inherit in the items you must respect the energy thus also the items. By disrespecting the item you are disrespecting the energy and the divine that makes up that energy. Think about all the small parts (atoms) that make the entire item. Can you respect the items that sit around you? respect the atoms that make up the items? now that this is understood, look at you hand or some part of your body. Can you comprehend that you are made of the same divine energy. Well done... So in my generalization of people, because we are all guilty of it at least once in our life. think of the internal dialog that we have had with our self, the self talk. Have you called your self an idiot? have you put your self down? Called your self names that are demeaning? Now the hard question, why is it that you can respect the items around you but you cannot respect yourself?   I work in the Drug and alcohol recovery industry and I come across many people that think very little of them selves,. They put them selves down at every opportunity, and have disrespected them selves in every way possible. Within these extrems I see what negative self talk does to a person, we are our own worst enemy and harshest judge when we are confronted with our own self talk over generalizing every proclamation we have about our selves. If you cannot disrespect the divine you should now find it hard to disrespect your self for you are part of the divine, made up of the same energy. Thus you need to start useing posetive affermations to discribe your self and do not generalise your harsh self comments. Love your self as you are divine energy capable of self directing your thoughts, words and actions.   As we are all sprung from the same stock, Partakers in the same nature, and share the same hope, Respect others as you respect your self. Love others as you love your self. Love the Divine with all your heart, with all your sole. Now you can connect with everything around you with the loving respect that every item, every person and your self with the loving respect that the divine is due. Thus do unto others as you would have them do unto you, for those among us that are treated with the least respect we treat the divine with the least respect.

Assumptions

Assumptions are dangers things. Our judgment calls that are not fully informed are based on assumptions about the information we do have. It is the information that we do have that may have been biased by the people that gave us that information.   Having tainted information from some one that also does not have the hole story or has a hidden agenda will strive to make you passionate about an issue that has no real bases in your own though. you are being blindingly led to support something that with more information you may not support at all.   This is the bases of having a good education, by having not the knowledge of stuff, but having the know how to get all the information you need to make a good judgment call.

New Products Page

You will see on the top menu a new option. I have created with the use of a plugin to this Blog a Products page for the articles that I have written.   You will see that with eBooks that you can purchase, a link to the eBook will be emailed to you once payment has been made.

Monica Franzisca Smolle (24-Aug-1948 to 16-Mar-2012)

[caption id="attachment_1594" align="alignleft" width="274" caption="Monica Smolle"][/caption]   Monica Franzisca Smolle (24-Aug-1948 to 16-Mar-2012)   Monica passed away last Friday, Mother of Martin and Frank Smolle, aged 64, and Monica is well known in Orange because of her years working in the family business called Auction and Trading Mark on Peisley St. Monica arrived in Orange with her parents Alouisia and Frank Smolle (Holocaust survivor) at the age of 8, emigrating from Austria. Monica went to school here in Orange, then she started working in the Family business called Orange Bargain Centre on the corner of Byng and Anson Street. In her working carrier She held the positions of; Auctioneer, Insurance Sails person, Executive Secretary, Undertakers Assistant, Service Station Co-owner, German Language Tutor, Encyclopaedia Sales person, and Pawn (Lending) Shop Manager. Most recently after closing the Auction in 2001 she studied Psychology and Theology. Monica's passion was helping others through supporting organisations, for which she conducted charity Auctions and raffles, such as the PCYC, Lions Club, APEX, Blind Society, and Masonicare. Monica's dream was to Complete her studies so she could continue helping others.   The Smolle family have always been a very close family working and living together. Frank and Martin living with Monica to the end and are now the only members of the Smolle family in Australia while Monica's Aunt is in Germany.   A wake - Memorial will be held in Orange on the 24 of March at 3pm to 5pm, Call Frank for RSVP and Address.

Cyrenian Therapeutic Community Centre

Cyrenian Therapeutic Community Centre

Service Description

Cyrenian House Residential Program is a therapeutic community located in a semi-rural setting in the outer northern suburbs of the Perth metropolitan area.

Services Offered

The therapeutic community offers a range of treatment programs for individuals and women with dependent children in their care. The environment of the therapeutic community provides: * A safe environment to maximise the benefits of drug rehabilitation * Support for re-entry into the community * Support in setting realistic goals for the future * An opportunity to explore identified issues in depth and develop strategies for dealing with them on an ongoing basis Assessment for the Cyrenian House Rick Hamersley Centre is offered at: 318 Fitzgerald Street, North

Perth: Ph:9328 9200 Fax: 9227 7431

Target Groups

People seeking to change their drug and/or alcohol using patterns.

Contact Person

Carol Daws - Director

Alternative Contact

Shonna Grant - Manager of Residential Services

Address

20 minutes north of Perth, Cullacabardee, WA, 6067

Telephone

Assessment - (08) 9328 9200

Fax

(08) 9227 7431

Office Hours

24 hours

E-mail

enquiry@cyrenianhouse.com

Website

www.cyrenianhouse.com

Listening Skills

[caption id="attachment_1583" align="aligncenter" width="227" caption="Mind"][/caption] I came across this great little tool to help you focus on where you may be lacking with you Listening Skills. It is a simple Yes / No questionnaire. So have a go at it and see how well you are a listening skills.   When you're Listening to Someone,

1. Do you think about other things while you're keeping track of the conversation?
2. Do you think about what you-re going to say next?
3. Do you listen with the intent to reply rather than with the intent to understand?
4. Do you break in with your own ideas before the other person has finished talking?
5. Do you listen primarily for facts rather than ideas?
6. Do you "tune out" to things that you feel will be too difficult to understand?
7. Do you try to make it appear you're paying attention when you're not?
8. Do certain words or phrases prejudice you so that you don't listen objectively?
9. Do your thoughts turn to other things when you believe a speaker will have nothing particularly interesting to say?
10. Do you finish other people's sentences?
11. Can you tell from a person's appearance and delivery that he/she won't have anything important to say?
12. Are you easily distracted by outside sights and sounds?
13. Do you miss the emotionality of the other person just from their tone of voice?

Unfortunately only a rear person will answer No to all these question, because we all live in our own minds and have distracting thoughts during a conversation. Furthermore, Theory of Mind is a developed skill that we are not born with. Theory of mind is the capacity we have to understand mental states such as: believes, feelings, desires, hope and intentions. It's the way we imagine other people's feelings or thoughts. We can create a mental picture of our own emotions or other people's feelings. This theory of mind enables us to understand the behavior people display is caused by their inner feelings, believes or intentions. We can predict some of those behaviors and anticipate on them. Whatever goes on in the mind of other people is not visible so it will remain a "theory" we create for ourselves.

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Testing

Hi Ho

1886 Vol 1 Picturesque Atlas of Australia 3rd Edition 1888.

1886 Vol 1 Picturesque Atlas of Australia 3rd Edition 1888.

This 124 year old Illustrated book was published for the lead up to centennial calibration of

Australia.

Make this part of your collection and use it as a source of information in research.

This book covers the History of Australia along with:-

New South Wales

Early Australia - Captain Cook - Map of old Sydney town from 1792

Early Settlement - Historical Sketch of New South Wales

Katoomba - Sydney - Circular Quay - King Street - Pitt Street

Hunter River District - Newcastle - East &West Maitland

Singleton - Armidale - Grafton - Richmond - Parramatta

Mudgee - Bathurst - Sunny Corner - Orange - Forbes

Wellington - Dubbo - Liverpool - Goulurn - Wollongong

Cootamundra - Wagga Wagga - Albury - Jenolan Caves

And More

Victoria

The Eureka Stockade, Ballarat - Melbourne - Port Melbourne - Around the City

And More

As you can see by the pictures of the book the front cover is missing and the spine is incomplete

The Pages are still bound well and the pages are there, but as you can see the pages are starting with paper rust.

I am disappointed that the book is in this state,

Though the information and the age of the book is substantial.

254 Pages - 34.5cm X 44cm X 3.5cm

Approx 4.5Kg

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Moving into the Call to Adventure

We, Human beings are remarkable creatures. Out of all of nature we have the capacity to change, and change we must, we are constantly developing, and in the process of change. But what is remarkable is that we can self guide the direction of this process of change. As of yet we do not know of our pets having secret developmental schools, or changing their environment to suite them-selves, such as air conditioners, buildings, or temples. There is no evidence that cats or dogs have a belief system, that there is a Devine Dog that created all dogs in its image, or a Dali Lama cat sitting regally as the font of all wisdom. I know cats may act in this fashion adopting humans as slaves for their needs, this may be the evidence that all cats are wise. It is however the human imagination that have made movies to illustrate the battle between cats and dogs, attributing personality and a language that manufactures archetypal behavior for the animal characters in the movie.   By placing blame outside the person helps in creating coping strategies to deal with the evils around them, while keeping their self-esteem intact. However by the end of the Hero's journey the hero will learn that the source of control dwells within the decisions we make. By placing trust in the groups or therapist, creates movement away from the Orphan attitude towards adaptive skills and making decisions for themselves. Eventually they will see that they did it all them self (Pearson, 1989, p. 40).   To read the entire Posting please pay $8.00 Via PayPay. Add to cart and then you will see the Shopping cart on the top of the Left hand Menu. Then I will email the password to you for the entire posting. [wp_cart:Moving into the Call to Adventure:price:8.00:end]   Pearson, S. C. (1989). The Hero Within: Six archetypes we live by. New York: Harper Collins Publishers.

Moving into the Call to Adventure

We, Human beings are remarkable creatures. Out of all of nature we have the capacity to change, and change we must, we are constantly developing, and in the process of change. But what is remarkable is that we can self guide the direction of this process of change. As of yet we do not know of our pets having secret developmental schools, or changing their environment to suite them-selves, such as air conditioners, buildings, or temples. There is no evidence that cats or dogs have a belief system, that there is a Devine Dog that created all dogs in its image, or a Dali Lama cat sitting regally as the font of all wisdom. I know cats may act in this fashion adopting humans as slaves for their needs, this may be the evidence that all cats are wise. It is however the human imagination that have made movies to illustrate the battle between cats and dogs, attributing personality and a language that manufactures archetypal behavior for the animal characters in the movie.   Unlike our Neanderthal predecessor that only have a very limited design of tools for more than 100,000 years, we make new tools and devises every week. With the influences of the world around us and our own imagination we are capable to not only change the world around us, or how we interact with the world around us, we can change our views, beliefs, our perspectives of the world, and our attitudes about situations, and the world around us. It is with the Theory on Mind that humans can anticipate the wants, desires, and actions of others. Furthermore with our prefrontal lobe gives us the power to visually simulate an experience before the experience happens in reality, which no other creature now or in the past can or could do. With this we have the capacity to practice any behaviour in out imagination and be come more proficient at that behaviour than anyone that have just stared practicing in reality. Though it is our limiting thoughts, the Cop in the Head, the Perceptual Inertia, the Mind Trap that stops us believing that we are capable of change, the schemas that we have developed prevents us from taking the leap of drastic change, and it is others that instil the self views we have that makes minor changes difficult. The resistance to change hinge on what we have built to be seen as "our life" as unchanging, developed by the idea of "devil we know is better than the devil we don't know".

There are the gradual changes that we do not recognise as change and then there are the fast changes that come over night. Like wise there are changes that are self initiated, to those changes that are initiated by others. Here are the extremes, the polar opposite of change, but all combinations are possible with different speeds and different levels of self agency. The slowest form of change that is out of our control is the journey from birth to death, but here we will talk of the practical view of moving towards the call to adventure, which is part of the Mono Myth of J Campbell's The Hero's Journey. Which is potentially counter intuitive to human behaviour, we are more likely to move towards things or events that feel good and shy away from things or events that feel bad, also known as operant conditioning.

Though this is a story of change, it is also a story of your life and the countless amounts of changes we go through in our lift. As you are unique among the unique, the stuff you are made of have been in existence have been in existence from the beginning of time, stars had to be born and die for all the atoms and molecules that you are made of. You are unique in the face that you are the only one in existence in the entire universe that has your unique DNA and your experiences. You are the Hero of your life because you do not know life from any other perspective, you see life from your 5 senses' and no others. Thus, as you have life, you are destined to change, and fated to move on beyond life.     Moving towards change is a buildup of all the past decisions to the point that a change must come. We habituate to the life we live to the point that a craving comes to take on something new, for better or for worse. The decisions we make can stall change, or bring it on with vigor, wanted or unwanted. To give substance to what I have talked about in a practical manner, let me tell you a story. I ran a successful auction house, selling items from deceased estates, proceeds of crime, government assets, unredeemed pawnbroker items, bankruptcies, and general items that people wanted selling. I was proud of my skills, and worked hard in every aspect of my business. I loaded my 8 tone Issus truck with furniture and white goods, all too soon I saw myself doing this till retirement, only seeing small amounts of further success. The decision to work harder and longer was a decision I soon regretted, but that regret soon became a blessing once I accepted the call to adventure. But the time between that decision of working harder and longer and the call to adventure were many months, almost a year. At times I would spend more time in the truck, going alone to save wages, I would travel 300 kilometers to pick up stock and then return to unload the truck, just to get back into the driver's seat and travel once again to get more stock. When I got tiered I would sleep in the truck, and only eat when the truck got refilled with fuel. The strength I had in my body, and the skill of handling stock knowing the fulcrum point as to shift stock with ease, I continued to work. As you can guess I accumulated a back problem and then sciatica pains were shooting down my leg to my toes, I could hardly walk, sitting down for a long time hurt, laying down hurt. I went to my Doctor, and he wanted to send me to surgery, I then went to two other Doctors, they gave me the same response. I eventually was taken to a chiropractor by a customer and after 2 months he got me walking pain free, with a warning that if I continue lifting heavy furniture I will need surgery. I refused to slow down with my business, though I did not overdo my lifting. Within a year the call to adventure came knocking at my door, and I had to take it because my body could not keep up with my will. You may see a pattern that may be the same here as there may be in your life or someone you may know. Now that I work with people with substance addiction. So to like my story many addicts have the same path to the call to adventure to change their ordinary life into something ells. I will now create a character "John" that is a synthesis of several clients that I have looked after. John is a Nurse, in charge of a unit of nurses, each weekend he goes out with some friends to the pub to have a good time and escape from reality for a time. Soon he is drinking during the week. John's decision to drink after work loosens his inhibitions to facilitate an affair with a co-worker, hiding it from his wife. John's drinking reduces a little, but his affair grows, using the excuse that he needs to work back late, or he is going out with his mates. Every time John meets his co-worker is a decision that leads him down a path of his own making, sooner or later John will come to a call to adventure. John's wife soon finds out about the affair and an argument that almost splits the marriage occurs. John promises that it will not happen again, but he does go to the pub and drinks too much. John starts his car and drives home from the pub, the police pulls him up and books him with drink driving. This is John's first offense and he is fined and required to do some community service. John settles back into his old life, he goes to work and home each day, and drinks with his mates on the weekend. Full of self-pity one day he calls on his co-worker to rekindle the affair. With that decision he starts the affair, wanting more in his life, to feel that hint of a thrill and a tender touch of another, other than his wife. Well you guessed it, his wife finds out once again, but this time she leaves with the children. Once again John is full of self pity, once again he drinks too much, and once again he is caught by the police. Thus John's call to adventure is just on the horizon.   It was from a story such as this I came up with the name "Ripple Affect". All too often we only look at the last decision for the consequences that we now suffer. All too often we blame others for the fiats that befall us. A series of decisions repeated time after time are the cause of that what we suffer or take pleasure in. Thus, we very rely take responsibility for the original decision and all the decisions following, because we cannot remember the first decision and think that following decisions are not of our making. Decisions we make follow us for a long time, we should hope that these decisions have favorable consequences. If they are favorable the call to adventure will not be so hard to fulfill, though if it is unfavorable the call to adventure becomes so much more difficult. It is here on our approaching the start of the Hero's journey we feel like an Orphan. We were living in relative peace with our surroundings knowing our role in place of our home, job, and friends, enacting the Innocent archetype. The Innocent in secure in their life, knowing that their needs are being meet, and that a routine is being upheld in a sense. Though it is now in this time of upheaval that stability and routine is upset, we need to deal with something new, we are being called to adventure. However just before we feel like a victim of life. We take on the archetypical role of the Orphan. C Person (1989, pp. 25-50) describes the Orphan archetype as a person ripped out of security, asking the questions "why me?", "Why do I have to suffer like this?", feeling abandoned, betrayed, and outraged, though still wanting to go on this journey in part. Though the adventure of the Hero has not yet begun, some people try old trick to correct the unbalancing of their world. C Person (1989, pp. 25-50) argues that a pseudo-Warrior emerges in our behaviour to make things right, forcing their will on others to correct the damage, to bring stability back into their lives. In my years as a therapist I know of several females that have done just that. I recall two girls doing the same thing but for two different reasons, but in essence it was about controlling their partner. Firstly one girl was about to loose their partner because she did not let him discipline her children yet the children were running a muck and walking all over her partner. He had enough and wanted out of the relationship. So when the time came that he was going to leave her, she took enough tablets, yet knowingly not enough to dye, so she would be hospitalised, manipulating him into staying with her. I must say that this worked for another two years, but his animosity towards her grow to the point that he left, and never talked to her again. Likewise another girl wanted her partner to give up using drugs, so she cut her wrists to manipulate him in giving up drugs. However in this case the ploy did not work, so she joined him in using drugs. Now that relationship is over because of the drugs and a bad relationship, but now she has a drug habit that she is having difficulties stopping. The same happened to me, the pseudo-Warrior emerged. When I had a bad back, I went to Doctors, Osteopaths, and massage therapists, till I went to a Chiropractor that got me waling without pain, but still I wanted to be an Auctioneer and get back to my way of life. Yet I was told by each professional I went to that I needed to stop the work I was doing otherwise I will end up living in a wheelchair, but did I listen? No. Being in this pre-Adventure Orphan stage we are so self-absorbed that the feelings and words of others mean nothing (Pearson, 1989, p. 31). The Orphan will walk all over others to get back to a safe feeling, and not trust anyone that can help. Yet all the people that are trying to help are mentors trying to help you grow out of this stage to take on an adventure. As the Orphan within us starts to mellow out and start to trust the world and the people in it, the Orphan will accept a mentor and see that the mentor is trying to help. Mentors do not come out of the blue, they are all around us at the beginnings of the Hero's Journey, it is that the Orphan will not see them because the Orphans are so busy blaming the world for their problems and are so self-absorbed trying to bring safety back by our selves. C Person (1989, pp. 25-50) calls the mentor a rescuer, what ever the name we give the mentor, the mentor gives hope to the Orphan that safety is imminent and can give practical answers that help. The mentor give the Orphan a sense of stability and a reliable person that can be trusted to supply answers and company in a time of feeling lost. The mentor can be your mother, father, brother, sister, lover, counsellor, therapist, AA Sponsor, etc. The Orphan will accept the mentor so much that the mentor will be able to point out any failings that the Orphan needs to work on, and the Orphan will take on these constructive criticisms and work on them (Pearson, 1989, p. 37). The Orphan does this because the mentor is seen as a source of Love and Hope, and a guiding spirit (Pearson, 1989, p. 37). The Orphan does not see them self as responsible for their fall from security, but blames the situation or the people around them, it is the mentor that guides them back to taking responsibility for their decisions. I have adopted Person's (1989) archetype of the Orphan because to describe the attitude of the person at the moment just before the Call to Adventure comes to the Hero. Within my work of being a drug and alcohol therapist, I hear it all the time that clients constantly blame others for their own bad choices. It is the Partners fault, the Parents fault, the fault of the Police, the legal system let them down. Best of all stories are the clients that are kicked out of Rehab because they smuggled drugs into the Rehab and then blame the staff for kicking them out of rehab. These people break the rules of rehabs or detox centres lie to get out of trouble make it hard for them self and for others around them. Alternative a social inequality will be blamed whether real or imagined, thus substance use, ageist, sexist, racist, religious discrimination in others, or either God or the devil will be blamed for their misfortune (Pearson, 1989, pp. 37-39). If this person will not listen to a mentor or realise that they are stuck in an attitude that is maladjusted for them the Orphan and will be stuck in this role. Ironically there are groups organised to help the Orphan attitude and help them place greater blame on their perceived enemy (Pearson, 1989, p. 40). By placing blame outside the person helps in creating coping strategies to deal with the evils around them, while keeping their self-esteem intact. However by the end of the Hero's journey the hero will learn that the source of control dwells within the decisions we make. By placing trust in the groups or therapist, creates movement away from the Orphan attitude towards adaptive skills and making decisions for themselves. Eventually they will see that they did it all them self (Pearson, 1989, p. 40). That will be the boon that we will talk about latter in this text. Like my Grandfather told me, "the only enemy you have is the one you look at in the mirror". Likewise my Grandmother told me another saying that means the same thing. "If a horse would know its own power, no human could tame it". We need to learn for our self the power that we have, the self belief at this stage on our journey is needs enhancing, that is why we take the journey. It is the self belief, and new skill that we gain, gives growth to our life and is the success of the hero.    

Bibliography

Pearson, S. C. (1989). The Hero Within: Six archetypes we live by. New York: Harper Collins Publishers.    

Feelings and Behaviour

You cannot feel your way into good behavour,

But

You can behave your way into good feelings.

  In other words fake it fake it till you make it. Our behaviour dose control our feelings and the way people interact with us.

AA Australia Unity Recovery Group meeting room

I have a list of Detox Centers and Rehabs for people of Drug and Alcohol addiction on this web site. But here is a great place to go to an AA meeting without leaving home. AA Australia Unity Recovery Group meeting room By using another program that is very much like Skype, you can meet these people and talk (not type) to them and have a AA meeting online. All you need to do in download Paltalk from their web site, register for free. Once you have down loaded the program have a look in the "View all chat Rooms" and under "Health" you will find a list of rooms in "Overcoming Addiction"   Have fun  

The decisions we make dictate the lives we live

The decisions we make dictate the lives we live.

Ken Robinson says schools kill creativity

Brian Goldman: Doctors make mistakes. Can we talk about that?

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Strength

Life throws everything at you bar the kitchen sink, then the kitchen sink is thrown at you as well. (Andre Agassi)

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EyXK0Iuqm8s

The Hand the rocks the Cradle Rules the World

The Hand the rocks the Cradle Rules the World   This is a common saying that I think everyone knows but really do not know the full import of the saying.   Children enter the world with complete ignorance of the social complexities of world the parents live in. The child is an alien to the world we live in, and need to know the pitfalls before they fall into them. as the child grows the learning becomes challenging for the parents, as the parenting style will govern the socialization and moral code the child will live with. The child will not know what is maladaptive (bad) for them and what is beneficial (good) for them, all this is taught by the parents.   The Hand the rocks the Cradle controles:

• The types of shows they watch on TV
• The quality of friends the child has
• The values that the child has
• The principals that the child will take to the grave with them
• The morals that they act by
• The ethics that they base their decisions on
• The child will distinguish as Normal behaviour
• The type of education that the child gets
• The habits of the child

I was horrified when I saw a posting on another web page for parents, which stated:-

To those it may warrant to think its there concern or business..... The choices my children choose to make are totally their decisions. And as for MYSELF, their DAD & their STEP-MUM we strongly support their decision to be their own individuals & learn from their own knocks & falls.... WE ARE THEIR PARENTS AND DON'T GIVE A DAMN WHAT OPINION OTHERS MAY CHOOSE TOO HAVE .... TAKE YOUR OPINIONS AND PUT THEM TOO USE IN YOUR OWN AFFAIRS NOT OURS !!!!!!!

Granted this is not an original concept by those that may have misinterpreted Benjamin Spock's method of parenting. Children need to guided, not let loos on the world without gudence.   Thus everything you do as a parent will be reflected in the child. for you are the bench mark that the child judges the world around them.

Ordinary world: In the Hero's Journey

[caption id="attachment_1503" align="alignleft" width="300" caption="Same old Grind"][/caption] This is the first step in the Hero's Journey and where we all start from. Just as I have heard somewhere, when the unusual becomes the usual it is accepted to be normal and part of the ordinary world we all live in. So, you have gone through the Hero's Journey just to create another ordinary world. Much like the journey I have take, I was once an Auctioneer and needed to change vocation, I took the hero's journey to go through University, now to be a Therapist, now therapy is my ordinary world. We all live in a maze of our own making, just like rats in a maze finding the cheese, we too have our own maze to fine our own cheese. If you like, get the town map out and mark out the routes you take every day. You are at home, then to work, to the shop, perhaps to the club, pub, bowling ally, then back home. The streets we travel are the habituated roads in the maze we stick to. Going to a new supermarket is out of the question unless they are cheaper or have something that others don't, that's why they fight with advertising for your dollar. In psychology when tackling clients that seeking change, the clients have what is known as a resistance to change, because it takes them out of their comfort zone. This is the same for every one, when dealing with a big change. This happens so often with people facing retirement, or a person that needs to change their life style because of medical reasons, depression is soon to follow.   To read the entire Posting please pay $8.00 Via PayPay. Add to cart and then you will see the Shopping cart on the top of the Left hand Menu. Then I will email the password to you for the entire posting. [wp_cart:Ordinary world In the Hero's Journey:price:8.00:end]     Baron, R. A., & Byrne, D. (2003). In Social psychology (10 ed.). USA: Pearson Education, Inc. Bessant, J. & Watts, R. (2002). Sociology Australia (2^nd Ed.). Allen & Unwin, Crows Nest N.S.W., Australia. Elliott, R., & Engebretson, K. (2001). Chaos or clarity: encountering ethics (3rd ed.). (T. Macnaught, Ed.) Southbank Victoria: Social Science Press. Emmison, M. & Western, M. (1991). The structure of social identities. in J. Baxter et al. (Eds) Ch. 13, pp. 279-305. Groopman, J. (2007). How Doctors Think. Carlton, Victoria, Australia: Scribe. Marshall, G. (1998). Oxford Dictionary of sociology. New York: Oxford university press. Williamson, C. M. (1993). The doctrine of the Church. In A guest in the house of Israel: Post-holocaust Church theology (pp. 233-265). Kentucky: Westminster/Joh Knox press: Louisville.

Ordinary world: In the Hero's Journey

[caption id="attachment_1503" align="alignleft" width="300" caption="Same old Grind"][/caption] This is the first step in the Hero's Journey and where we all start from. Just as I have heard somewhere, when the unusual becomes the usual it is accepted to be normal and part of the ordinary world we all live in. So, you have gone through the Hero's Journey just to create another ordinary world. Much like the journey I have take, I was once an Auctioneer and needed to change vocation, I took the hero's journey to go through University, now to be a Therapist, now therapy is my ordinary world. We all live in a maze of our own making, just like rats in a maze finding the cheese, we too have our own maze to fine our own cheese. If you like, get the town map out and mark out the routes you take every day. You are at home, then to work, to the shop, perhaps to the club, pub, bowling ally, then back home. The streets we travel are the habituated roads in the maze we stick to. Going to a new supermarket is out of the question unless they are cheaper or have something that others don't, that's why they fight with advertising for your dollar. In psychology when tackling clients that seeking change, the clients have what is known as a resistance to change, because it takes them out of their comfort zone. This is the same for every one, when dealing with a big change. This happens so often with people facing retirement, or a person that needs to change their life style because of medical reasons, depression is soon to follow.   When I was an auctioneer, I identified my self as an auctioneer, and loved that profession. I know everything there is to know about being an auctioneer. I remember once I went to another auction house that used a computer system to do their paperwork during the auction. Well on that day I was there, their computer system crashed, all the staff were in a panic. As it turned out there were only two people in there that knew how to do the same thing as the computer, but by hand. I was one of the people that knew how to do it and one of the older staff on site. I have now been out of the auction game since 2001 and people still talk about the auction and want me to start the auction up again. In the city I live there is still no regular auctions being held. Well I left that business, went to University, got my degree, and it was not until I was acting as a therapist for 3 years that I stoped viewing my self as an auctioneer and started seeing my self as a therapist.   Now that I am a therapist, I treat people with drug and alcohol addiction. These people have the self view and label themselves accordingly as Junkies, addicts, users, crack heads, piss pots, pot heads, and speed freaks. This is the same story as me identifying myself as a therapist and not as an auctioneer, but a lot harder. It is harder because the substances my clients use have a stronger affect on there chemical reliance, and the labels they call themselves gives them licence to act the way they do. Furthermore, think of the drug addict's life, they know everything there is to know about the drug and how to use it and where to get it from. They are connoisseurs of drugs knowing the quality, and what they are cut with. The drug addict are masters of the distribution chain and in evading the police, just as the Predator (Police) get smarter the Prey (Addict) get smarter in evasion. Then in the life of the addict, all their friends are addicts, their social life revolves around addiction. The criminal activity that is practiced is no different to a job. I was proud and still am proud of being a good, if not great auctioneer, this is no different for the addict. The addict has pride in their criminal activity and is a source of self esteem, also the better they get the more they will be known for their skills as a criminal. Before too long the best criminals become teachers of other criminals that want to be better. Now we are asking them to give this all up overnight if not earlier if possible, it's not going to happen. Just as I am still be asked to start another auction up, the addict will have people ask them to get back into the drug lifestyle.     Self identity is what we do and how we label our self, in short self identity is in the being. Being in the ordinary world is where we are, but is it where we want to be? Can I escape the ordinary world? I want more out of life, but will it be more of the same? What is the road less travelled? And where is it? We will leave that for another chapter… Psychologists look at the ordinary world, describe it in detail, test it, and then look at each individual variable in it, measure it, and then change the variables a bit, not to change the ordinary world but to see if people respond for the better or worse. And the best payed psychologists help companies get the most amount of money out of the people. I heard that psychologists designed the chairs in a big fast food chain so that they are just the right amount of uncomfortable so customers do not stay in the shop and linger. The customer eats and leaves, just to come back again. The ordinary world is not out there, it is in the last place you would look, inside your self.   In the ordinary world we all use judgment calls on all types of issues and when labelling behaviour of others and our selves. These are often moral judgments we use to describe behaviour, such as calling ones self or others judgment based labels. You will find the many label them selves and others by what you or others do. I worked as an Auctioneer for a large chunk of my working life and that is where I put my energy and thus I labelled my self as an auctioneer for a long time after I stoped being an auctioneer. Now I work with people with addiction and I find that these people do the same, they label themselves accordingly with highly judgmental labels, such as junkies, pot-heads, addicts, rehab hoppers, and users. So to they think that they are good for nothing ells than the labels that they have put on them selves. You may find the same, you label your self around your job, profession, possession, or what ever you place all your energy into. These are value judgments that we think are fixed based on our ethical mind set.   For judgment calls like this to become an ethical issue, these judgments need to have two or more different opinions and have debatable terms set on them, such at good and bad, right and wrong, worthy and unworthy (Elliott & Engebretson, 2001, p. 17). Many labels have a stigma about them that also brings about a status of worth, labels that set a persons status in society. You will find that stigma has had and for many still have a great impact on their life. Just think of a person that has a physical or mental disability, that try to have a life of worth, but the stigma or labels others place on them stop them from getting ahead. Like wise job labels have been changed to builds the esteem of the workers. Jobs such as the garbage men have been changed to sanitation workers to place greater importance on the job and to build esteem in the workers.   In the ordinary world we stick to the labels that know, and act according to those labels because they the labels are like security blankets that we hang onto. This is called by several names in different professions, thus some call it perceptual inertia, while call it mind trap.   Either we find a label through out job or through the family that we grow up in and find it extremely difficult to escape that label or too comfortable being in that label. Likewise we do the things that that label dictates so well that we are scared to do anything ells or think we are incapable of doing anything ells. It is here in the ordinary world that we may want to change what we do or grow in our selves but to fearful doing so. Furthermore we may think that the skills we have are not transferable to other careers.   All constructions of our-selves are defined by language, this is extensively discussed by Marshall (1998. p.294) and further suggests that it is our primary form of communication. With symbolic guttural utterances also known as 'symbolic interactionism' for concrete and abstract constructs, and it is in this realm that we describe ourselves and the world around us.  Marshall (1998. p.294) further argues that language, or the meanings that are implied by words, are governed by the cultural setting in which the individual resides. As words have constructed meaning, cultural values are given distinction by words. Thus identity is constructed by socially accepted and constructed words and concepts that describe values, customs, and behavioural norms.   The Swiss structural linguist Ferdinand de Saussure (cited in Marshall, 1998. p.294) suggests that it is by way of words, meanings and values that we define our-selves and the world around us, including our place in it being given meaning/made meaningful, through human constructs of labels such as "good" or "bad". What is seen in one culture as virtuous (good) can be viewed as a crime (bad) in another (Bessant & Watts, 2002. p. 138). Practising within human services "labels can be shattering" for the parents of people suffering either a physical or mental ailments and should be investigated in-depth before a label is placed on a person (Groopman, 2007, p. 85). It is these labels that enable a person to create a self-fulfilling prophesy or an excuse for their behaviour. By fixing a label onto a person, that person is seen to be changed forever in the eyes of others (Groopman, 2007, p. 84).   The feeling of being trapped by the labels that you place on you-self or from others, is the strength of influence peers, co-workers, family, the community, print media, television, and talk radio has guiding ones beliefs, opinions, and ethics is great. All of these forms of influences re-enforce the labels that we base our self beliefs and self image. Thus with the labels we live, the self image we have of our self, and the beliefs that guide us, dictate the decisions we make along with the repetition of those same decisions. Shared thoughts and heuristics build stereotypical categorizations of groups and their behaviours (e.g. Young people, Uni students and older people, etc.). This prospective of identity is subject to where one has the vantage point, social identity, for example, can be viewed to come from within a group (in-group), as being heterogeneous when identifying individual identity markers, of individuals, within the in-group. When viewing a group from the outside (out-group), as homogeneous, claiming that all the individuals in the out-group are the same (Baron & Byrne, 2003, pp. 161-162). Thus the observation and perspective of identity is subject to the observer, and his/her memories at that time, and therefore is difficult to be known as anything ells but a subjective observation.   The perceptions of reality that we have, as suggested by Emmison & Western (1991. pp. 279-281) is our subjectivity that can be seen in the Marxist tradition, as being the socialization of the young to hold intact economic class positioning and class consciousness. Thus identity, is essential to keep the function and production of society stable, this is an indicator that groups of individuals use identity markers in relation to their class position including their social and economic capital position.  Not surprisingly Emmison & Western's (1991. pp. 289-293) study has indicated that being a "family group member," or having a nationality such as being "Australian," or the fact of having an "Occupation" are strong identity markers. Emmison & Western (1991. p. 301) suggest that class distinction is not an important identity marker for individuals, but is salient in the formation of collective identities. The manifestations of these markers consist of, choosing the appropriate location of residence acceptable for the resident and his/her class, also the ownership of material goods along with acquired social capital, all of this shapes cognition and thus shapes subjectivity. Social capital as being suggested by Coleman (cited in Marshall, 1998. p. 608) is the knowledge of social norms and close networks of persons living in a close-knit community.   Another way to expand the gulf between the in-group and the out-group is by the demonization of the out-group and emphatically stating the presence of God within the in-group. In the first century Tertullian made a clear distinction, that God adopts Christians, while the Jews are rejected by God (Williamson, 1993, p. 237). Tertullian continued this degradation of the Jewish people and legitimacy of the gentile Christian people in an ecclesiocentric manner continues by declaring that Christians are; superior, more honourable, more obedient, have new ceremonies, "more ready to accept God's discipline", and morally superior with a better religion and better God (Williamson, 1993, pp. 238,250). Tertullian use of religious language with his emotional display within language was used to separate Christian from Jews. The Jewish rebuke is likewise controversial with a, emphatic "no" to the Christian use of ideology displacement for the purpose of converting people, the spiritualization and de-historical perception of redemption, and that salvation is first and foremost in the possession of Gentiles (Williamson, 1993, p. 234). The Jewish rejection of a Gentile church with its distortion of the rabbinical gospel, the refusal of the Jewish people to consent to a world now redeemed through Jesus Christ, the Jews strive to hold true to God that liberated Israel and God's promise in the redemption for the world (Williamson, 1993, p. 234).         Baron, R. A., & Byrne, D. (2003). In Social psychology (10 ed.). USA: Pearson Education, Inc. Bessant, J. & Watts, R. (2002). Sociology Australia (2^nd Ed.). Allen & Unwin, Crows Nest N.S.W., Australia. Elliott, R., & Engebretson, K. (2001). Chaos or clarity: encountering ethics (3rd ed.). (T. Macnaught, Ed.) Southbank Victoria: Social Science Press. Emmison, M. & Western, M. (1991). The structure of social identities. in J. Baxter et al. (Eds) Ch. 13, pp. 279-305. Groopman, J. (2007). How Doctors Think. Carlton, Victoria, Australia: Scribe. Marshall, G. (1998). Oxford Dictionary of sociology. New York: Oxford university press. Williamson, C. M. (1993). The doctrine of the Church. In A guest in the house of Israel: Post-holocaust Church theology (pp. 233-265). Kentucky: Westminster/Joh Knox press: Louisville.

Kim Clijsters: Definition of Clijsterphobia

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Definition of Clijsterphobia :- The fear experienced by a

tennis player in close vicinity to Clijsters.

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjXz1dzdJWg  

 Definition of Clijsterphilia  :-The obsessive experience that fans have of Clijsters.

   

Rabbit out of a hat

I was looking at my Horoscope the other day and this is what it stated.  

If a stage magician wants to pull a rabbit out of a hat, he (or she) must first get a hat... and a rabbit! The art of creating the illusion may be hard to master (or mistress) but it is still secondary to the acquisition of those two key components. With that in mind, let's look at your ability to produce an impressive result from out of thin air. The real question is not, do you know how to do something? It is, do you have access to the basic resources that might be required if you were to attempt such a feat?

  I found this really good because it can be for any one.. If you replace the word "rabbit" with skills, and the word Hat with the word "passion" you will see that this is a great metaphor, or parable.

Warning to all

I am astounded by the number of people that post comments on this blog with privet and sensitive information about either them-selves or others.   Remember this is a BLOG ..... not a place to track down clients (your friends) at a centre.   Furthermore, This blog is not associated with the Drug and alcohol centres on this blog, I only have the information available here for you, so that you can rate the services and find the information.